This week I am reading comedian Amy Poehler’s book Yes Please. Most well-known for her skits on Saturday Night Live and starring in Parks and Recreation, Amy belongs to the current #squad of funny girls who seem to be popping up all over the silver screen (that’s right I just hashtagged for effect).
Reading this book is like listening to the voice of a loveable, funny friend. She is honest, touching on issues around relationships, childbirth, knowing when to speak up and when to apologise. I think she is something special. Any girl who makes a career out of being silly and having fun every day is quite spectacular.
Amy is also a catalyst for social change. We glorify beautiful, sophisticated, always-keep-your-cool-and-say-the-right-thing women. How many times have we been in situations where we have kept our weirdness locked in the shadows, because someone might not accept us or find it sexy.
There is a certain freedom and light that emanates from a woman who can be a total goofball. As the saying goes, she might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but she’s someone’s shot of whiskey.
Hopefully as you get older, you start to learn how to live with your demon. It’s hard at first. Some people give their demon so much room that there is no space in their head or bed for love. They feed their demon and it gets really strong and then it makes them stay in abusive relationships or starve their beautiful bodies. But sometimes, you get a little older and get a little bored of the demon. Through good therapy and friends and self-love you can practice treating the demon like a hacky, annoying cousin. Maybe a day even comes when you are getting dressed for a fancy event and it whispers, “You aren’t pretty,” and you go, “I know, I know, now let me find my earrings.” Sometimes you say, “Demon, I promise you I will let you remind me of my ugliness, but right now I am having hot sex so I will check in later. – Amy Poehler
Much love XX