YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOVE, NOT WHAT LOVES YOU

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The other day my bestie and I were chatting about how different this world would be if people were unaffected by others’ opinions. Who would we be if we didn’t need acceptance, approval and love from our peers? If there was no fear of rejection.

It made me think of a quote from the 2002 film Adaptation – staring Nicolas Cage and Meryl Streep.

In a scene close to the end of the film, two twins (the main characters – played by Cage) have gotten themselves into a predicament and are hiding out together, talking in whispers. One twin (Charlie) is a brilliant writer, but has always been acutely aware of what others think of him and as such, is a very neurotic and anxiety-filled individual. The other twin (Donald) has always appeared to be oblivious to the cruelty of the world. So much so that Charlie has often resented him and thought him to be infuriatingly simple minded – until this moment….

Charlie Kaufman: There was this time in high school. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh.

Donald Kaufman: Oh, God. I was so in love with her.

Charlie Kaufman: I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you.

Donald Kaufman: I remember that.

Charlie Kaufman: Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at me. You didn’t know at all. You seemed so happy.

Donald Kaufman: I knew. I heard them.

Charlie Kaufman: How come you looked so happy?

Donald Kaufman: I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn’t have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.

Charlie Kaufman: But she thought you were pathetic.

Donald Kaufman: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago.

Hat – Brixton   Cardigan – Witchery   Tee – Cotton On   Jeans – Glassons   Heels – Silvia Rossini

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Hi, I’m Katie. I am a kiwi neuroscientist with a love for consuming and creating content. This site is where I share my personal thoughts and the thoughts of incredible minds from around the world. PhD in Neuroscience, University of Otago.

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