Last week I read about the concept of divine timing. And I thought this was interesting and share-worthy.
The idea being, as we head forth on our path, we will meet people or have experiences that are destined for us. They bump us – sometimes through tragedy or heartbreak – onto the path we truly want to be on. And towards the one we truly want to be with.
The bump helps us get off at the right bus stop, where our desires await us.
Where we get into trouble is when we try to rush to the meeting point. Because we crave happiness so completely and we are tired of riding alone.
So we set out on a mission to speed up the process. In love, we see a delicious potential and decide said person is the one, whether they are involved in that decision or not.
When in actuality – both parties have to get off at that bus stop at the same time. One can’t be picked up, carried or forced. Nor would you want them to be. We rob ourselves of experiencing someone so sure about us, it’s cosmic.
As is the case with careers or a life purpose. When the time is right we figure out what we really want to be doing. Then strange things happen – like neuroscientists becoming fashion bloggers….
You may have heard of the following scenario:
One person was ready for a relationship and the other just wasn’t – leaving someone in broken pieces. They end up reuniting years later and living out their lives together drinking white rum at 3pm on a Sunday and reading novels to each other in the bathtub. Or, the experience sets off a chain of events that places a real kind of love right onto their path. Something more raw and beautiful than they could ever have imagined existed.
Sometimes it takes a moment of earth-opening heartbreak to strip you of your ego for just a second. A second long enough for clarity – and the monumental bump in a better direction.
Rushing to the meeting point to cure one’s own loneliness or restlessness won’t work. We’ll be standing there alone. When meeting a potential soul mate – the person with the ability to keep us interested. The person who makes us think. The person who shows us all the broken parts inside us and soothes them simultaneously. Both have to take the necessary bumps to end up in the exact same place at the exact same time.
And that is divine timing.
So what do we do in the meantime?
We take comfort in the fact that size of oceans, lengths of time, age and circumstance doesn’t matter. When it is time for the rendezvous – nothing can stop it occurring.
So we keep going. We continue to rip down our own walls so that we are open to what is coming. If anyone wants to leave – we let them. We kiss our own broken heart better, or mend it however we see fit. We have as much fun as is humanly possible with all the real people. We keep our eyes open.
We show up every day and ride the bus.
Much love XX